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I do my best to keep my 9 year old off screens during the summer, but I work from home, and 1) live near a busy highway, with no age appropriate kids on our street, 2) it's 100F outside - in June. I don't blame him for not wanting to go outside and play by himself when it's heat stroke weather. So I let him play video games and watch RUclips, but I make him get off of them every few hours and do something else. Either read a book or do a chore. I also break up my work day and work after he goes to bed so I can spend 1 on 1 time with him. And I can't really tell him not to watch RUclips while I have videos on in the background while I'm working. But, I try to encourage him to do other things. It's just too hot to be running around outside midday.

A lot of this stuff is just parents showing off for the 'gram and flexing wealth. Children probably don't really care whether they get this or get something simpler.

I used to complain of younger generations even when I was part of it. It's called observing.

It’s a trifecta of parents being physically and emotionally overburdened, teachers being deprived of resources and disempowered by apathetic school systems, profit driven social media platforms and tech companies that do nothing to protect children, and the whole world just not caring about children in general. Blaming only one element is only seeing a fraction of the picture, even though at the end of the day - yes, parents need to be more responsible and active/present in their kids lives.

1:30 “I went into this video hesitant to make claims. But the more ive researched, the more concerned I've become. Have YOU been following Gen alpha influencers?” NO, I'm not, because I'm not profiting off videos made to paint an entire generation as problematic, weird and disturbing. You are projecting your gross influencer mentality onto innocent kids so you can advertise at 10:11. 😂

It's normal for kids to imitate TV characters. Little kids play as pretend villains too. They're LITTLE kids. They're allowed to act self centered. Guess what - 99.9% of the generation is not an influencer. Get a clue-youre an adult with the capacity to make ethical decisions. Stop projecting your problems and ignorance onto your kids for attention on social media.

I have heard parents say to me countless times when their kids are acting rude or crazy that as long as the kids aren't bothering them, it's fine. I have witnessed kids breaking branches off of trees at the park, and asked the other parents at playgroup about it, and they were totally uninterested in addressing the behavior. In one of the situations the damage to the tree had been done but in the other one I marched over to the kids and told them that they were disrespecting someone else's property as well as the tree and needed to find something else to do. They kind of looked at me like they were shocked I was even mentioning this but they complied and were just fine. The parents thought I was overreacting but it was shocking to me how they were so blase. They just seemed so fed up that they saw playgroup as a chance to kind of zone out and talk to other moms and not really watch their kids. Which I totally get, but you still need to have some control in the situation so things don't get out of hand or dangerous. We were at a firework show last night hosted by a local fireworks stand. There were about six kids running around and crashing into people during the show and not paying attention. The guardian of two of the kids just kind of threw her hands up like, "What're you gonna do?" There are a lot of reasons why gen alpha is struggling and I think it's a multifaceted problem. Permissive parenting is the definitely a big part of it in my opinion. You can be gentle and authoritative without being to submissive or authoritarian. Gentle parenting gets a bad rap but I think a lot of people misinterpret what it is.

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And this is just by the lens on nuerotypical children(?) I can already see how this is going to affect neurodivergent children who already are disadvatanged by design with some social skills/cues. 😢😢

Also wait what if you have hardly any friends or no friends where you live. Like me for example. Not that I don't social with my husband's friends or my neighbors each day at least for a few hours since I am not a super social person but I still try to at least. Most my friends live hours away or in another state because I moved and so did all my friends. Also I wonder where people can tell the difference between iPad kids and kids with mental focus issues. Never really heard people talk about if they can tell tell the difference

My issue is you keep saying gentle parenting but keeping talking about permissive parenting... Those are two very different parenting styles. Gentle parenting instills that the parent is in charge but not abusive

The internet is both good and bad but I know when it comes to gen z the younger ones are on way more then us older ones and it's scarry

I'm late to the discussion and don't know if I have the capacity to properly articulate my thoughts on this topic in english but I gotta say, as a language/teacher graduate, that it is SCARY that people are convincing other people that children can learn how to read and write just by being exposed to text. I mean, for sure some children can SEEM like they can, but it is scientifically agreed on that without ANY exposure to the rules and structure behind the text there's no way one could simply learn naturally how to read. Human beings are natural speakers, our brain is naturally wired to learn how to do it when exposed to verbal communication, but writing (and, therefore, reading) is a TECHNOLOGY we developed to better organize our society. It's not inherent human nature to do it. Probably the children who better responded to the unruled exposure approach already had some low key advantage, like basic knowledge of how some letters and phonemes relate, of letters as singular elements and of how some words are composed by those letters. I said it was scary but I think that's not the best definition. People thinking the earth is flat is scary. People negating science is scary. People making children feel like crap because they can't magically learn how to read just by staring at words, and probably causing some serious damage to their self-esteem and to the relationship they could have with writing and reading is, I don't know, perverse. The world would be a better place if people had to take some kind of psychological evaluation in order to work with children in any means. Enough of ego-tripping pseudo-specialists spreading misinformation and making everything worse for kids and parents.

As a gen z in their early 20s, I wasn't plugged into the internet until about my early adolescence. So as a kid my life was mostly normal with alot of social time and not being online. Tbh yall that didnt really change until the late 2000s. So idk why people keep acting like its gen z. We frickin remember black berries! I didn't see an Ipad till I was like 10 or 11 XD It's just really frustrating. Like if anything this is a YOUNG gen z thing. Not generally. People my age are not as far gone as those younger.

Just a few minutes in and I'm laughing. We have 7 born children and they spend most of their time playing outside in the dirt with farm animals. Birthdays are a cake, $30 cash and pizza for our family. Y'all my kids spend all year talking about how they can't wait for their next birthday.

Uh hello im a gen alpha i like percy jackson and spiderman :3 anyway bye!! ^_^

As a late gen Alpha, I have seen a lot of his behavior firsthand and it’s honestly scary. I’m so glad that I was taught not to be like that, but I just want you to know that not all of us are like that and I have been watching videos like this because I want to be a parent eventually, and I want to know what to avoid doing

It makes me not to be a parent because of how hard it's going to be increasingly difficult not only for me but for my kids to be disconnected from technology. My old neighborhood has zero kids outside on a cooler summer day!!! Kids aren't even trick or treating that much anymore!

Dress to Impress comment sections should be studied for this topic. Those kids are mean as hell

I dont have a cell phone. I have a house phpne and a tablet for home.. bc simply if i had one i wouldnt be able to socialize or be in tbe real world.. my kid's are limited but now i wonder if i need to cut even more time out. We play roblox togethet at quiet time but ur right about the socialization. Its really really hard to get kids to come play. Theres no motivation to go hang with their friends. The friend's are even worse..

Social media, internet, tiktok is the cause that young children get manipulated by the system and manipulate them how they should behave…. This whole plague society becomes more narcissistic these days, like they’re all been programmed…..Which is insecurity. Let’s face it, all you see people who want attention, validation and boosting their pathetic fragile ego these days. Gen Z is narcissistic, Gen Alpha will be way worse than Gen Z.

Shut the schools down, and require parents to uphold the same standards. They’ve let them get out of control because they pawn them off onto other people to educate them. It used to be illegal to disclose the names of children publicly, now parents do it to their own kids.

Must be city people. None of my kids or peer's children are this awful. Live within your means and live in nature people. Bored rich city people! 😂

Our marriage therapist recommended “1-2-3 Magic!” As an alternative because I was gentle parenting (not permissive parenting) but negotiating quickly turned into the majority of our day, even though I stuck to my boundaries, the fact that I explained why every single time she asked even if I already have, turned negotiations into a bid for attention. With 1-2-3 Magic! It has everything we want, there’s no yelling, no hitting, clear boundaries, we give her the plan and explain things once, and if she argues or tries negotiating or throwing a fit, “that’s 1” she gets 5 second to calm herself down and a 20 minute cool down from the first count, if she persists, “that’s 2” and so on. When she gets to 3, she takes 5 minutes to calm herself down. She can go in her room and she doesn’t have to sit still, in a corner, or up against a wall, she can even play if she wants to or tell and throw her toys if she’s what she decides to do, but not disturb the peace of the household when she’s not following the rules or pushing boundaries. It got me out of “the little adult” assumptions and has brought peace to our home and significantly lowered stress levels between my husband and I while also making my relationship with my daughter that much closer. Kids feel more secure when they know what to expect. I think that’s a lot of what we’ve been missing recently. I recommend this book to anyone. I will say some assumptions about what the home life/family dynamic looks like can be a bit outdated but the parenting style is one of the only research backed parenting styles you can find.

I would say a huge part of the problem is calling these children "influencers". They certainly don't call themselves that. It's the adults who do. No one should be called that, let alone children. Children aren't meant to "influence" anyone. On the contrary, they're very pliable and easily influenced by other people as part of forming their personality. All these children growing up constantly hearing they're "influencers" is a recipe for disaster. They will very likely grow up to be self-absorbed, narcissist, insecure, apathetic adults, without any tools to face hardship or to be constructive members of society.

Gen alpha is predicted to be the most illiterate generation since the silent generation. Our peak in education was Gen x - Gen z.... Also we as parents don't help. My 1 yrs old knows how to scroll with one finger because she sees my mom and I do it 🥴🥴🥴 granted my child is still content without online stimulation or even just plain boredom but still....

All that comes to mind is Ballinger Family, who have used their kids as 'influencers' since birth. 🤨

"I didn't realize that the 'loved too much' style of parenting could actually be so detrimental to your kids." UM...... EYE did, back when I was a child of the late 70s-80's; it was called 'Being Spoiled'. 🙄 There were societal repercussions for it, too.

You are truly a shitty parent if you let or actively film your child on the internet like this. Children's access to the internet should be limited to all hell.

Omigod the gore thing and especially with children. I’m the exact same

Gentle parenting but with some discipline here and there and setting boundaries.

This is exactly why my parents didn’t let my siblings or I have a phone until high school. I was the only exception, but that’s because I had afterschool dance in middle school and my parents needed to know where I was. so, per tradition, my first phone was a flip phone just like my siblings.

I said to my five year old nephew re: his tantrum over putting down the ipad and opening his birthday presents 😮, “L, this (ipad) is nothing. These are the people who love you. You’re hurting them. This (ipad) doesn’t get hurt.” And he looks at everyone around him, says “i get hurt!” and throws it at my face. Proving, I suppose, that the ipad does, in facf, hurt. I’m scared. This is who will be taking care of us in our old age?

Where are you guys seeing kids like this. Every kid I’ve seen recently is normal. These are extremes

i think the covid lockdowns encouraged kids to stay online and not talk to each other. i wouldn't wanna talk to my classmates as a kid if a pandemic taught me to stay away from people

Ok, I made this account as an alt for my safety but I have something to say. I am 13. Yep, Gen alpha. I had a Gen x as a parent but, regardless I have a opinion. So, I personally would like to say that I was one of the lucky ones, yes, I was handed an iPad at the ripe old age of 5. Despite that I ended up picking up reading simply because I found more interest in it. I was lucky because when my parents split my dad was more of a less screentime, obviously there was way less tech, being 2018/2019 at the time, but when I was at his house his less permissive style of parenting definitely helped my development. He was the one that taught ,e to read and even gave me a literal dictionary on my 7th birthday. But, the reason I'm making this comment because *I'm worried.* I try to set boundaries for myself for screen time, or at least try to, but because of my mom having custody, my sister is cooked. She got a phone in KINDERGARTEN. FREAKING KINDERGARTEN. She watches brainrot ALL day and I can't do anything about it because "moms working and she's bored." She has the worst attitude! And I'm not saying this purely from sibling rivalry or anything, she will scream and cry when I try to set up a screen free activity for her to do when my mom's working upstairs. She has an ungodly amount of snark and will tell adults to "shut up!" And to "leave her alone." Worst part? She's. 7. Years. Old. I love her because she's family and my own sister but holy crap. She can't open a water bottle. She can't read. She has a horrible case of learned helplessness. I know she can do these things but SHE WON'T. and I know she doesn't have any learning disabilities, we took her to the doctor to check. I volunteer as a special education teacher aide at my school, and they can read and write better than she can. I'm worried. I'm guessing there's mostly adults in here and can anybody help me? I don't want her to be like this. Is there anyway I can help her? At my mom house I am more of the parent when my mom is working, but my mom gets mad at me when I try and get her off the screen or teach her to read or do *something.* because "I'm not the parent." Anyway, can any parent give me a tip or something?

Though I have many of the traits of these kids (I’m late gen z), I’m well aware of it. It’s not entirely the same thing, I guess. I do know how to entertain myself without technology, I have a very active imagination, and I’m able to empathize with others, I do tend to always put my needs first like a reflex. I’m seeking therapy to try and rewire my psychology, and I will not be having children so that there’s no risk of the traits I have getting in the way, and harming a child.

As someone who is on the border of gen z and gen alpha, I find it crazy about the shift in behavior. I didn't get actual cable TV unless at my grandparents' house. I aspired to be an engineer and I loved learning at school. I got online when I was about 8 1/2. I enjoyed reading articles and finding drawing ideas. I've always been a straight a student (I still am). I find it absolutely insane that kids that are only a few years younger than me are using skincare and becoming influencers. I know a kid that is and still probably is in 5/6th grade that is a serial cheater (If you could call him that. I don't actually know if dating is as important at that age). Of course some of my friends are online a lot, but our friend group lives in different towns (and I don't think I'm aloud to hang out with them alone because of like them all being boys and me a female at birth). During school, we all sit and eat lunch at the same table and then go out and play tag or dig holes with sporks like we're breaking out of prison. Most of my bullies come from phone addicted gentle parented kids. As much as I think that I could of been parented better (my biological father was an abuser), I think I learned that you only get what you want sometimes. That's something that my brother who won't be in middle school before I graduate will not understand as well as I did. (He'll also grow up in a different social class than I did.) I seriously don't understand how much a couple years changed how kids grew up. I would say more but I have things to do. Bye!

This is mainly happening in America. Because foreign parents would never.

As a gen alpha i only got technology when i was 8, and even then i only had 20 minutes until i was 10 when i had 3 hours. I’m so grateful for this because I actually perform above grade level, as well as being able to spend enough time off my phone to go to school (where I get in trouble almost never) and spend time with friends and family. I also only post my art on social media. I only really consume that and video essays on RUclips and tumblr. Anyway sorry for the ramble and how boring and braggy (?) it was. Edit:I forgot to mention I only watch RUclips while drawing. Unless I’m writing comments.Thanks for reading!

Can't agree more! I did two birthday parties for my son (1st and 2nd birthday), nothing crazy like that, but I couldn't afford to do birthday parties. As my son has grown up, he prefers going on a special outing for his birthday (being autistic he struggles with noise and social interactions). It works out better not having a party and my son is happier for it 😊

The world isn’t gentle. If you don’t show your children discipline and respect at home they will go out in the world and have it even worse. Learning the hard way that the world is not gentle. Be strong out there parents.

Im on the line of gen Z and Alpha and pretty much most of the kids in grades below me are incredibly internet obsessed and talking about things they definitely should. Like I have a friend in 7th grade and they were talking about body counts??? To be fair i'm also pretty internet obsessed but mostly because i have a special interest in video games and been exposed to things far beyond what i should have so i'm not really one to judge. Sorry about bad grammar/spelling, It was hard to get my thoughts in order :,D

Jesus why do you look like youre 48?

Wouldn't recommend laser hair removal. Ye still have to use it quite frequently(there's a reason why hair grows back after waxing). Not only that it doesn't often completely destroy the hair follicle. The hair will jus' come back lighter. Plus it makes ye a heck of a lot more vulnerable to sunburns/skin cancer. I mean yer usin' a laseer that targets melanin in the hair/skin. Of course yer gonna be more susceptible to burns.

Omg I live with a child like this1

The thing about a community based system is that it requires compliance of beliefs, opinions, and ideas. It requires the people be agreeable for the setup to work. In order for people to be agreeable or get along, there need to be social skills and proper self-regulation in the individuals. America is also struggling in that aspect and as such, big changes need to be made to afford America and its citizens a second change at healthy society.

I have experience with addiction, and screen addiction is really similar sadly . I don’t think parents want to admit that , but they’re setting up their children to have addiction and compulsive control issues for the rest of their life. You can recover from one thing , but the behavior will present for the rest of your life . I know kids that get more screen time than they spend moving their body . Same kids make fun of others for being fat and not touching grass , the disconnect is vast. A drug addict will shrink their world down to that drug and only the peripheral things that support or bolster that drug … I see entire worlds existing around screens , where food , sleep, schoolwork , going yo the bathroom , showering … nothing else is as important

Neutral colors and minimal toys is actually kinda good for little ones😊 sometimes kids cry from too many choices. A nice calm, color pallete and not too many toys to clean up/choose from can be good 😀 nice textures and warm tones with pops of color can be kinda good ?

my sister is gen alpha and i’m gen z, and i’ve seen the difference in how we were raised firsthand. i wasn’t allowed any internet access of my own until 10 years old, whereas my sister got her first ipad at 3. i was always punished much harder than she was, which led her to have zero respect towards me since she knew she could antagonize me and i would be the one to get in trouble for yelling. i was given zero authority over her, yet for some reason they allowed her to tell me to do things. whenever i tried to tell her do to things, it was “you’re not her mom”. she gets some kind of kick out of being rude towards me in a way she knows she won’t get in trouble for. my internet was heavily monitored. i had to give all my passwords, they would check my messages, etc. my sister is now 12 and she does not have any monitoring on her internet. when i was her age, i got smacked for saying cuss words online. she says then around the house and does whatever she wants. she’s incredibly self absorbed, obsessed with her appearance, and spoiled. it hurts because my parents were often much too harsh on me, but for her, they’re too lenient. i’m 20 now and preparing to move out, and it worries me that i may someday go no contact with my sister if this behavior gets worse.